i think i've got all the answers

when you've hit 26 and you've had your fair share of failed relationships, and you've planned your life out with at least one person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with, and you've made a checklist that isn't hard to meet at all but unique in its own way, and you've seen how the marriages of your aunts, uncles, and own parents fail, and you know who's cheating who and with whom, and you actually know one real divorced person who's having the time of his life . . .

you don't settle. you don't give up on your non-negotiables. you look forward to fifty years from now and know in your heart that someone who agrees with everything you say would never be your it guy.

that's the reason why although i think i'm being stupid for letting that guy go, i'm being very smart for not compromising. because when you're old and ninety and in bed together and the only thing you've got going between you two is conversation, grammar and pronounciation counts. independence of opinion counts. intellectually stimulating conversations count.